How to Become more Charismatic

Charisma1In this article, we are going to discuss how to become a charismatic person and attract more success in your life. What we have found is a close relationship between personal charisma and success in life. Probably 85 percent of your success and happiness would come from your relationships and interactions with other people. The more positively others respond to you, the easier for you to get the things you want.

In essence, when we discuss charisma, we are debating the law of attraction. This law has been stated in many different ways down through the centuries but basically says that you inevitably attract in your life the people and circumstances that harmonize with your dominant thoughts. In essence, you are a living magnet and you are constantly radiating thought waves. Like a radio station radiates sounds that are picked up by other people, your thoughts, intensified by your emotions, got out from you and picked up by everyone who is on the similar wavelength with you. You then attract in your life people, ideas, opportunities, resources, circumstances, and anything else that is consistent with your dominant frame of mind and with your emotionalised thoughts of the moment.

This law of attraction also explains how you can build up your levels of charisma so that you can have a greater and more positive impact on the people whose cooperation, support, and affection you desire. The critical thing to remember about charisma is that is largely based on perception, it’s based on what people think about you, what people think you really are. It’s not so much reality as it is what people perceive you to be. For example, one person can create charisma in another person by speaking in glowing terms about that person to a third party. If you believe that you’re about to meet an outstanding and important person, that person will tend to the charismatic when you meet them even if you’ve been told a different story.

Now, imagine that in a seminar, sitting next to you is a person who started with nothing and who is now worth hundred million dollars, drives a Rolls Royce, has a beautiful home, a private jet, etc. That person is one the smartest businesspeople in America or the world and the reason is here is because he likes to continue to upgrade skills. Now if I you were told about that the person next to you, how would you see and think about this person? Would you act entirely different? Undoubtedly, yes! That person would have tremendous charisma because of this reputation that has been created for them.

Another example, if you walk past a rockstar on the sidewalk, if you didn’t recognise them at all, they would have no impact on you. But if you recognise a real rockstar that you’re admiring and respecting, you would be overwhelmed with the effect that they might have on you. So everything is perception.

One of the most charismatic people in the world was Mother Teresa of Calcutta. In a physical sense, she was a quiet elderly frail little woman, in poor health. She weighed 100 pounds or less and she was a modest woman. She might have been ignored by a person on the street, were not that tremendous charisma she developed and for the fact that her parents were so well-known. I had a good friend who visited her when she was in the hospital in San Diego for heart surgery. He was allowed to meet with her for five minutes as a favor to someone else. He came out afterwards and he said the five minutes changed his life. He resigned from his profession, he quit his job, he moved away and started a whole new life, as a result, spending five minutes with the frail elder woman in a hospital bed. Because of his belief in her charisma and the one or two words that she told him about loving other people unconditionally.

If someone told you that he was going to introduce you to a brilliant self-made millionaire who is very quiet and unassuming about the success, you would almost naturally imbue that person with charisma and with special abilities. In his presence, you would not act the same as you would if you’ve been told nothing at all. Charisma begins largely in the mind of the beholder, and you can affect that mental set in the mind of the beholder.

Lasting charisma depends more upon the person you really are, then upon the things that you do. So continue to look for ways to improve others’ perceptions of you so that you can be more influential with them. Be a living magnet and here’s one more secret to charisma: the more you listen to people, feel, and treat them so they are fascinated, the more they will find you fascinating as well.


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