You’re really trying hard to be a gentleman, how do you do it? Well, it’s not really a personality trait; it’s more of a lifestyle. You can’t really turn on and off like a switch to be a great gentleman. It’s something that you need to learn from within. In this article, I am going to discuss some tips to be a true gentleman.
1. Put efforts into your appearance
The first tip is that you need to put in efforts in order to appear well. Yes, appearance matters.
Firstly, you need to keep yourself clean and well groomed. For that, you need to shower every day. You should not smell bad. Especially when you date a woman, you must know they do not like to be around men, who smell bad, so make sure that you clean yourself well, shower every day, probably two times a day. You will also feel fresh and the people around you would also feel nice. And keep yourself well groomed.
Now when I talk about grooming yourself, the things that come under that is you need to keep your fingernails nice. It means you do not need not go for your manicures, like the women do, but you need to trim your fingernails. There are some men that I usually come across, who probably cut their nails, however, there’s all dirt settled under their fingernails.
Trim your nails at least once a week and clean your under nails well.
Another thing if you like to maintain a good stubble or a beard, make sure you maintain it well. Trim it at least once a week and it should look neat and tidy. If you prefer the clean shaven look, that’s great. Go for a clean shaven look, a good beard, a well-maintained stubble, or a well-maintained beard.
Another thing that you need to work on is protruding hair from your nose and from your ears that does not look good.
So these are the certain things that you need to follow when it comes to appearance.
2. Showcase your manners
The second tip is to show your manners. A true gentleman is respectful to everyone in his orbit. So what do you need to do? Well, show off your manners, hold the door open for your partner (either your partner is a woman or a man) or carry groceries for elderly people.
The certain things that you need to keep in mind are like I said, hold the door open for your partner. For example, you walk into a store, don’t just push the door, walk in and then leave the door. Oooops the partner behind you is gonna bump into the door, and that’s mean. So if you wanna be a nice, true gentleman, well open the door and let your partner go first.
The modern manners dictate that a gentleman, a true gentleman is that person, who always lets the women go first. For example, you are entering into an elevator. It’s super crowded, and you are probably getting late; don’t just push yourself into the crowd and go first. What you need to do is just wait for a couple of seconds, let all the women enter first and then go ahead. That’s gonna be really appreciated.
Also, when you go to a restaurant probably you are dining with your girlfriend or your boyfriend and you want to be a nice guy, you want to be a nice gentleman.
So how do you show your manners out there? Well, you pull back the chair for your partner, let them sit, push the chair, and then go ahead and take a seat.
So these are probably things just sound very silly to you, but it just shows that how courteous you are in a very subtle way. So even these small things really matter, even when you are driving or even if your friend is driving, like your girlfriend or your boyfriend who’s driving – open the car door for them, let them settle down in the car, and then you go ahead and take a seat.
3. Always be on time
The next tip that I have for you is – be on time. If you’re not early, it means that you are late. Yes, you cannot have someone waiting for you. Be it your woman, your man, or be it any other person that you have given time. Well, usually what happens is – we tend to get late, we are not well prepared for certain things like traffic or these little disasters, and then we keep giving excuses. That’s not fair, if you really want to be a true gentleman, you need to be on time. Prepare yourself for these traffic jams, because usually when we step out of your house, we all come across these little disasters. Am I right? So prepare yourself with that, make sure that your car has enough fuel or enough gas and make sure that you wait for the other person rather than the other person waiting for you, especially if she is a woman. So the next time you give time to someone, make sure to be on time.
4. Compliment and have polite conversations
The last tip that I have for all the lovely men is to compliment and have polite conversations. The first words out of your mouth should be, the moment you look at a woman is: “Oh you look beautiful tonight.” Especially if it’s your first date. Even if they are not looking really pretty tonight, doesn’t matter. You can’t really say that they look ugly. Use subtle words like: “hey, you look nice” or “you look beautiful” and if she or he is exceptionally looking absolutely amazing then you can use words like: “hey you look stunning tonight, absolutely gorgeous!”. So compliment!
Now even if you are already in a relationship, you can’t take your partner for granted. You need to compliment them as well, maybe not daily, but at least once in a while, that would really make she or he feel nice about themselves. So complimenting your partner is very important.
Another thing that you need to keep in mind is to have polite conversations. Just because you are a man, you can’t really show off your skills. You can’t be rude or you can’t really talk in a very loud manner, screaming on top of your lungs. You cannot do that, if you wanna be a true gentleman, you need to have polite conversations. Use positive phrases like: “how may I help you today?”, “I’ll take care of that”, “don’t worry”, or “I’m here for you, no worries”. These are the positive phrases that you can always use for the people around you, so be it elderly people, be it friends, be it your partner. Try to use these words, this really helps. Don’t speak loudly, have nice, polite, slow conversations.
So these are the certain things that would genuinely help you to come out as a very positive and a great person. Follow these tips and everyone will appreciate you. Be mature and of course be very courteous and self-aware about yourself!